About Sex and Relationship Counseling

Frequently Asked Questions:

Who can attend couples and sex therapy?

Anyone – individuals, couples, those involved non-monogamous relationships, vanilla or kinky.

What is Sex and Relationship Counseling?

It’s a type of therapy that is geared toward just that – relationships and sex. Sex, after all, is 50% of a relationship. I’m here to help you resolve distance issues, traumas in the relationship, navigating open monogamy, and other core sexual issues. My approach starts with helping us to find the problem before we can find the solution. From there, my treatment process involves putting you in the driver’s seat with me as your guide.

Does the therapist touch the clients?

Nope, just talking.

Will I be expected to engage in sexual activities during the session?

Not at all. You just may be asked to complete homework involving sex outside of the sessions. We will then discuss how it went at the next session.

What will the therapist think of me?

As always, no judgement. Truly. We talk about tough stuff at times, and it’s all good. I’m here to help you.

Is it too late to try Sex and Couples Counseling?

Life issues aren’t easy to navigate, and it can be a difficult decision to reach out for help.  For instance, you might wonder – is it too late to try sex and couples counseling?  The answer is no, any time in your life journey is a perfect time to start with a sex and couples counselor.  All relationships go through rough patches, and it is not the issues themselves which determine the success rate of relationships.  Rather, it’s the commitment of the people involved to understanding and working through these issues.  You don’t need to wait until you can’t take it anymore or the relationship is nearing its end.  Many people try couples counseling at some point in their lives and at various times – in a 2017 study involving 1,000 couples, 49% said they had attended some form of counseling with their partner, with 57% of those who had attended therapy being married between 3 and 5 years (The State of Marriage Counseling, 2017).

What if I don't want to share my personal problems with a stranger?

Another issue is, you may not want to share your personal problems with a stranger.  I get that. Getting involved in counseling, whether on the individual or relationship level, requires bravery and vulnerability. There is no such thing as too much information in sex and couples counseling. Talking about intimate and private things can feel embarrassing, especially talking to a complete stranger. You can always tell me as much or as little as you want to tell me. I am an independently licensed counselor who is trained in Sex and Integrative Couples Counseling, as well as a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and ally of the kink community, so I’m used to talking about things like porn, low sexual desire, and infidelity. I’ll take steps to make you feel as comfortable as possible.

What if my partner doesn't want to attend?

That’s okay because sex and couples counseling is for individuals, too.  We can work to address individual and relationship issues either way.  Change often happens when we can begin to look inward, so this type of counseling can still help you and your partner/s if you are willing to engage in some self-reflection and commitment to change.

So what do you do in sex and couples counseling?

We talk, we explore, we resolve. No, there is not anything physical or sexual that occurs during sessions.

Who can attend this type of therapy? 

Individuals, couples, those involved in poly relationships.

Do we only work on sexual issues? 

Not necessarily. After all, therapy is about growth and insight as well.

How is this different from couples counseling? 

We integrate couples and sex therapy goals to focus on the overall health of relationships.